Have you ever asked yourself the question “Why do I push people away?” If you have it means you are not living in balance as you should be. Many times our actions, whether good or bad, are the result of what we believe to be true. And if you are one who believes that you only have your good side to show and keep in the relationships you have then you will find you are quite often pushing people away.

When you ask yourself: “Why do I push people away?” then, the best answer you can think of is self-destructive behavior. One of the ways we destroy our relationships is by making demands on them. If you were able to get your way in a relationship with this particular person then you would rather stick with them and not change. You wouldn’t want to hurt them, correct their behavior, or make them happy so you’d rather keep quiet and avoid all contact until they behave the way you want them to.

Another reason why do I push people away is that we don’t like change: Changing yourself and your behaviors is very difficult, even if it is healthy for you. Yet if you find someone who is willing to change for you, treat them well, and show them you care, then you may start to see them differently. If they aren’t willing to make this change for you and keep quiet, you may find yourself pushing them away.

A third reason why do I push people away: is that when we are pushing people away we are letting go of the connection that we once had. When we make a new connection with someone we may become upset because we can’t get past the old one. Yet by pushing people away we are letting go of our previous relationship and therefore can’t possibly have another.

The best way to stop pushing people away is to take time apart from the relationship: Make sure that you take some time and reflect on your relationship, what did you do that made it fail? What can you change so that this doesn’t happen again? Once you figure this out you will be better able to decide if you should continue to try and push people away, or if it’s best to just let them come to you.

There is nothing wrong with pushing people away: In fact this is necessary for many people in many different relationships. However, when it becomes a habit it becomes unhealthy. If you find yourself feeling this way in a relationship, perhaps it would be a good idea to step back and see if you can heal the relationship.

Stop pushing people away. It really is not in your best interest.

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