The question on how to be more feminine has been bugging my mind for quite some time now. Why is it that I’m always seen as being too girly? Are there any particular traits or qualities that I need to work on to become a more desirable mate? How can I be confident when dating and when I’m with my guy friends? Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s easier than you think.

How to be more feminine begins with understanding: that not all men find feminine qualities attractive. Being more feminine takes recognizing your natural feminine look, behavior, and finally applying some subtle changes in where necessary. Like to call them feminine magnets. Boy, they’re powerful once you apply them, clear them up and apply them to your magnetizing feminine power! These changes may be subtle at first but boy, they bring more poise to your life than a well-groomed, masculine man.

Masculinity is all about looking masculine: It’s not only the muscle-heads and big muscles that make you look macho, but also the way you carry yourself, carry your thoughts and even dress. There’s this perception that girls only value a well-groomed, attractive guy, but I’ve learned that girls actually look for a lot more than a nice-looking body.

That being said, how to be more feminine doesn’t mean shaving your armpits: toning your body and completely forgetting about makeup. You don’t have to be an aspiring Hollywood actress to take care of those lovely eyebrows, either. You don’t have to be blessed with a face that garners adoration like Angelina Jolie’s. You don’t have to be voluptuous to look attractive. You can be just as comfortable walking down the street in a skirt as you could in a four-pack, although most guys won’t admit it!

I don’t want you to feel like you need to settle for being more like Angelina Jolie: if you want to be more feminine, but you can do that too, of course. You can choose makeup that highlights the good parts of your feminine qualities, including your lips, your eyes and your hair, but remember that these aren’t the only qualities that define you. You can be more feminine than the women you’re often attracted to without having to put on weight, change your entire appearance or even take out all your makeup. You can simply accessorize, choose a nice top and add a few dainty earrings or put on a little color to your hair.

So, how to be more feminine? Simple. Look at how a real woman acts and how she walks. Notice the way she carries herself and the way her hands are positioned. Notice the body language she uses and pay attention to how she talks.

There’s a lot you can learn about how to be more feminine by watching other women, but ultimately, it comes down to how you treat yourself and how you present yourself.